Following the Crowd is Not a Must

Have you ever wondered why you do what you are doing now? Have you ever thought about why you choose your choice? Do you think that it is from the real you or do you just follow what the society tells you to do or choose?

As a normal woman, for example, she must follow the norm, or the rule enforced by society. She must be able to cook, to master the femininely graceful walk, to dress nicely, and the other things related to feminity.

However, if she doesn't do what the society tells her to do, is she committing a crime? Let's say that she doesn't enjoy cooking. If she forces herself to enjoy cooking because of the norm, she must suffer emotionally. The enjoyment she finds from gardening, for example, will be considered not normal by the society.

A normal boy is usually asked by society to play outside for fun and for sport. He must also know how to hang out with other boys and talk about boys' stuff. If he, in fact, loves dancing, the society will consider him not normal. If he looks awkward when he is with some friends talking about hobbies, the society will think that there is something mentally wrong with him.

When it comes to living life fully, there is no obligation that we follow the crowd. It is still okay if you want to follow the crowd if you know what you are doing. When you decide to not follow the crowd, as long as you don't hurt others and you don't care that others judge you, I think there is nothing wrong with you.

For me, simply put, when I choose to not follow the crowd, I don't have any intention to be rebellious.  I am just feeling certain that I know what I do and I am willing to take any risk for that. I am sure I have the power from inside of me to live my life fully and to choose not to follow the mainstream.

Let me quote what Patrick Star says in Spongebob Squarepants series: "Sometimes we have to go deep inside ourselves to solve our problems." The crowd, or the mainstream, doesn't have any idea about what we need in our life. If we follow what the majority does, the result is ordinary. Do we want to get extraordinary result? Then follow what our heart tells us to do.