Do You Need to Care about How Others Perceive You?

Do you try hard to be liked? Do you always want other people to have a good impression of you? Are you worried that maybe some persons you know will look at you in a strange way when you wear old fashioned outfit? Will you be disappointed if a friend of yours looks jealous seeing you holding your brand-new expensive smartphone?

If you care very much about how other people perceive you, it's a sign that you are a normal human being. It's normal when you have an intention to let others say something good about you. You wear nice fancy clothes to look stylish in front of other people. You decorate your house beautifully in order to make your guests feel comfortable and say something nice about you and your house. You put on enough makeup for your face to let others think that you are freshly fine when they look at you or sit near you.

However, I think if you try too hard to make others always have good opinions about you, there's a big possibility that you will become someone who is not the real you. You will do anything to look perfect even if you need to borrow a large sum of money for your perfect look. You will try hard to do good deeds in front of other people even if it doesn't come from your heart.

With your perfect look, you will get what you want: other people think that you are rich, you have everything, you have a happy life. They praise you, they choose you to be a role model, they adore you.

With your good deeds that you've done in front of other people, you will be considered generous, kind, caring, good-hearted. People adore you. People like you.

But of course, the after-effect is coming back to you: you have to pay back the money that you've borrowed for your perfect look. And, you need to always update your stylish look with new items. That means more money to spend.

Or you can be mentally exhausted and in a great depression. Why? Because you help others for the sake of good reputation. You help others with your logical thinking saying that you must do it so that other people will think that you are a good person. In that way your brain works harder because of  the 'support' from your desire to show off. That results in great exhaustion.

Isn't it gracefully simple when you apply baby powder on your face just because you feel that the fragrance of the powder can boost your mood? And if someone compliments you because you look cute after applying the powder onto your face, you can take that as a bonus.

And doesn't it feel peaceful when you want to help somebody just because your heart tells you to do it? Then if there's somebody else seeing you doing it and he thinks that you're a kind person, that's a bonus for you.

So, don't expect others to perceive your life. They have their own life to care about and to enjoy, and so do you.