It is not uncommon when you face a situation which can trigger your anger. That situation can be as silly as an unimportant misunderstanding or as serious as a betrayal. You have a right to be disappointed when somebody or something really disappoints you. You also have a right to feel unworthy when someone underestimates you. And when your anger arises because of that, it can be assumed as your mechanism to defend yourself.
Therefore, because of your being easy to feel various feelings, including those feelings that can trigger your anger, there are three things that you should be aware of when your sudden urge to get angry arises:
1. What is exactly your primary feeling?
You need to analyze what is actually happening to your emotion. You are not just suddenly becoming angry at once. There must be something that unconsciously is making you angry. Are you undervalued by one person? Or are you feeling deceived by one person?
2. Do you "explode" in the right manner?
Once you can identify what primarily is happening to you, you can express your anger to the right person wisely (or you can choose not to express that with the risk of unhealthy anger management plus it hurts, too). "Explosion" in the right manner is communicating your problem with the person with whom you have the problem. It also means that you don't have to stay away from the people who are close with that person. Just because you have a problem with person A, doesn't mean that you need to limit your interactions with those people who are close with person A.
3. Do you "finish" your anger?
It is good to acknowledge about you yourself the way you deal with your anger. Just ask yourself after some attempts in expressing your anger. Is your "mission" completed or aborted? Because when you let it be unfinished, there will be some remaining hidden "energy" that can brutally explode one day.
(Those three are inspired by a true event.)
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