Bisa bedakan "-nya" dan "-Nya"?

Materi bahasa Indonesia memang gampang-gampang susah. Saya sendiri yang orang Indonesia juga masih bimbang apakah saya harus menggunakan kata "jaman" ataukah "zaman". Walaupun sebenarnya saya bisa memeriksanya sendiri di aturan bahasa Indonesia yang baku yang bisa saya cari di Google. Ibaratnya sesederhana "one click away", semua masalah tentang kebimbangan pengetahuan bisa dibereskan dengan cepat. Termasuk kebimbangan tentang mana yang benar: "mengkonsolidasikan" ataukah "mengonsolidasikan". Ada beberapa warga asing yang belajar bahasa Indonesia mengatakan bahwa hal yang paling sulit dalam bahasa Indonesia adalah imbuhan yang berupa awalan, sisipan, dan akhiran.

Saya mau ambil contoh penggunaan akhiran "-nya":

1. Wah, ternyata bolanya jatuh ke parit. (-nya di kata "bolanya" berarti menggantikan kata tunjuk)

2. Saya bertemu Bu Wanda dan anaknya. (-nya di kata "anaknya" berarti pengganti kata milik orang)

3. Tuhan menyayangi makhluk ciptaan-Nya. (-Nya di situ berarti menggantikan milik Tuhan)

Masih banyak contoh penggunaan akhiran -nya yang lain. Tapi karena saya bukan ahli bahasa Indonesia, tiga contoh sudah cukup.

Ada contoh menggelitik yang berhubungan dengan akhiran "-nya". Saya akan berikan contoh caption di di satu momen peringatan keagamaan. Mestinya contoh caption ini pun bisa ditemukan di artikel yang membahas caption yang sesuai dengan tema momen tersebut. Ini contohnya yang sudah saya lihat juga di artikelnya: "Semoga Tuhan senantiasa bersama dengan mereka yang mengingat penciptaan-Nya, merenungkan serta merasakan ketenangan di tengah keramaian dunia." Apakah ada keanehan terasakan dari kata "penciptaan-Nya"? Buat saya, tidak ada yang aneh. Kalimat itu benar secara makna, makna yang saya pahami. Kalimat di atas adalah doa buat mereka (yaitu umat manusia dan makhluk lain yang juga ciptaan Tuhan) yang mau mengingat penciptaan Tuhan. Penciptaan maha karya Tuhan sudah selayaknya harus diingat dan direnungi agar umat bisa selalu sadar dari mana mereka berasal. Itu yang saya pahami karena saya yakin bahwa Tuhan itu maha pencipta dan Dia tidak diciptakan.

Nah, yang membuat saya jadi agak merasa aneh adalah ketika ada ralat untuk doa itu. Ada pihak yang meralatnya menjadi begini: "Semoga Tuhan senantiasa bersama dengan mereka yang mengingat pencipta-Nya, merenungkan serta merasakan ketenangan di tengah keramaian dunia." Kok rmereka (umat) seakan-akan disuruh mengingat siapa yang menciptakan-Nya. Nah, berarti kalimat doa itu menimbulkan kesan bahwa kita umat manusia harus ingat bahwa ada yang menciptakan Tuhan. Lho??

Ada dua kemungkinan yang terjadi pada dia yang meralat itu. Kemungkinan pertama adalah dia termasuk golongan orang yang mempercayai bahwa Tuhan itu ada yang menciptakan. Berarti dia percaya ada yang lebih Maha daripada Tuhan yang dia sembah. Dari ritual yang dia lakukan sebagai umat, dia menyembah Tuhan; bukan penyembah pencipta Tuhan. Berarti kemungkinan pertama bisa saya bantah sendiri. Kemungkinan kedua, dia termasuk yang tidak paham tentang teori bahasa Indonesia. 

Namun, apa mau dikata? Orang mempunyai kecenderungan untuk menilai salah dan benar, cocok dan tidak cocok. Saya berusaha memahami dia yang meralat itu. Saya berusaha di sudut pandang dia; sudut pandang orang yang kurang bisa menelaah informasi tertulis. 

Bagaimana? Sudah membaca sampai akhir tulisan ini? Terima kasih. Selamat memahami sudut pandang saya.

The Absurdity of Oversharing

Every time I get informed about some random people's personal lives being on the news; local, regional, or even national, I cannot stop thinking about their life. Are they feeling comfortable while their personal lives are being consumed by society? Or are they feeling proud of being famous? 

Years ago when the internet was not for everyone, personal life stories were shared between family members, close friends, or neighbors. They were trusted that they would not share the stories to people outside of the circle. Those who were not in the circle were not supposed to hear the stories. Personal lives, therefore, remained personal.

And not to forget about celebrities' personal lives, years ago not many people really cared about their idol's personal life. They chose to care about admiring his/her work in the field of music, movie, or art. If they wanted to dig deeper about his/her personal life, they had to buy some magazines or newspapers. Or they waited for a TV program airing celebrities' life stories. From what I remember, TV programs about celebrities' lives in the old days were aired not as often as these days.

Nowadays, when the internet is unlimitedly accessible for everyone, we are forced to consume the personal lives of either celebrities or ordinary people. Though we are not interested in one celebrity, we might stumble across an article, or at least a trashy clickbaiting headline discussing that celebrity's personal life. And it is an eyesore!

The worst part is when TV stations and online media are bombarding us with tragic, bad news about ordinary persons' personal life. From the case of adultery to domestic violence, it all starts from the persons' careless decision to post it on social media. And, of course, that social media post can be a 'valid' source for those infotainment journalists to produce news. The more sensational the news they produce, the more clicks they will get, and the more money will come to them. 

To be honest, it's a good thing when we like to write and we can make money from our writing. And, in fact, the internet is one of the best places for persons who have a passion to write. However, it will be much wiser if they choose some better topics to write; not just some crappy stories about someone's embarrassing misfortune.

Now, don't you think that some people are so absurd that they over share their dirty laundry on social media? What is their purpose in doing so? Do they need supports from their followers whom they mostly don't recognize? Or do they want to be famous by sharing a sensational story about their personal life?  

For me, over sharing on social media is pointless. Let me keep my dirty laundry for myself. And let me finish it without asking for attention online.

Problems Happen

We often experience some mental fatigue when everything seems to go out of our control; the missed deadlines, the angry customers, the unfinished housework, the toxic relationships, and some other problems of life. 

How happy our body when we feel very tired after doing restless physical activities. Our body really knows its function to sense its power limit. Our body also absorbs every positivity from a good quality of rest.

However, the situation will be quite different when we are mentally exhausted. Our body feels the urge to burst out and we are not able to enjoy our rest. I know that feeling all too well. And I know why it happens to me. One clear cause is that I force myself to multitask. I am not a qualified person to do multitasking stuff, and when I force myself to do it, I get burnouts.

Anyway, when we are still alive, problems will always happen. Those problems are what make our life worth living. They will make us stronger and wiser as long as we don't run away from them. It is a good thing to choose to deal with our problems because that makes us human. Human beings are always allowed to choose options when dealing with their problems. They are allowed to make bad decisions.

So, when you are still breathing, just accept the fact that problems, easy or difficult, will come to you. Enjoy your time when facing them before you come to your final destination: death.