A few days ago a friend of mine asked me about a wedding life of Mr. Tarkie (not a real name). Mr. Tarkie is my old friend. That friend of mine asked me because she thought that I knew all about his life. She thought that Mr. Tarkie's wedding life was problematic. She thought he divorced his wife. I was shocked. I didn't even know about it. I asked her about how she got that information. She said that there were no more recent posts or pictures of him and his wife on all of his social media. So she made a conclusion that something wrong happened to his life with his wife. What a careless conclusion!
That way of concluding is just ridiculous. Looking at your friends' social media posts or uploads can make you become a ridiculous conclusion maker. It's fine when you make a good conclusion. For example, you see a photo of your friend's son holding up a trophy. Maybe you will conclude that that boy is a smart boy because he can be the winner of a contest. Or you can conclude that the parents must be proudly happy to have that son.
But what if you conclude in a different way? You know that your friend posting that photo has 2 sons. One son, with the trophy, goes to a favorite school, while another son is not very special because he goes to a school which is not famous at all. You will conclude like this: "How could the mom/dad post that photo? Okay, fine, they may feel proud. But can they imagine how the other son feels if he looks at that photo? Will he feel proud or hurt? Do the parents forget that they have another son?" Anyway, this kind of conclusion depends on the empathy and sensitivity of others. Not all people can make that kind of conclusion.
Let's go back to what my friend has concluded about Mr. Tarkie's wedding life. Mr. Tarkie used to upload photos with his wife when he was newly wed. I think that's normal for a person to do that if he is active on social media. Later on, he seldom uploaded his togetherness with his wife. He chose to often upload photos about his journey and interest. For me, I never made any conclusion about his personal life when I see those uploaded photos. I just look at them as an entertainment. Not more.
So, when a friend of mine came to me with that ridiculous conclusion of Mr. Tarkie's divorce, I was making a conclusion that her way of making conclusion is really out of the box! :)
13/09/2017
Encrit: cat #5
Encrit is the kindest cat among all. She answers softly when I talk to her. She moves away from the house if she gets diarrhea. She will just stay in the garden. Actually she wants to stay in the house, joining to sleep with me, but maybe she understands when I say to her, "No Encrit. You get diarrhea." She will run away from me.
When Krisi had 3 kittens, Krisi didn't pay attention to her babies. She would just breastfeed them when she felt like it. So the babies needed to find comfort. I usually gave them comfort, but that was not enough. Therefore I made Encrit come to them. For the first time, Encrit looked awkward. She was not angry at the babies. She was just looking confused. But when they cuddled her belly, she sat down and they started to find the nipples. Encrit breastfed the babies! She has never delivered any baby at all!
One day some of my cats got sick. Maybe they consumed poisonous food from the neighborhood. Encrit also got sick. So she started to avoid the babies. And still, Krisi did not even care. She got sick herself. As a consequence, those babies couldn't survive. All three were dead. After the kittens' death, Encrit got worse. She looked so depressed. Encrot, her brother, was also seriously ill. He soon died. That made Encrit very depressed again. She did not eat or drink for four days after Encrot's burial. I was hopeless and I thought that she was going to die. But she could finally survive.
She is now happy and cheerful. She can move on. Though she is a little bit skinny, she is just fine. She eats less and moves joyfully. Though sometimes she still gets diarrhea, I am always ready to clean it up if the poops are in the house. I am proud of her for being a survivor.
When Krisi had 3 kittens, Krisi didn't pay attention to her babies. She would just breastfeed them when she felt like it. So the babies needed to find comfort. I usually gave them comfort, but that was not enough. Therefore I made Encrit come to them. For the first time, Encrit looked awkward. She was not angry at the babies. She was just looking confused. But when they cuddled her belly, she sat down and they started to find the nipples. Encrit breastfed the babies! She has never delivered any baby at all!
One day some of my cats got sick. Maybe they consumed poisonous food from the neighborhood. Encrit also got sick. So she started to avoid the babies. And still, Krisi did not even care. She got sick herself. As a consequence, those babies couldn't survive. All three were dead. After the kittens' death, Encrit got worse. She looked so depressed. Encrot, her brother, was also seriously ill. He soon died. That made Encrit very depressed again. She did not eat or drink for four days after Encrot's burial. I was hopeless and I thought that she was going to die. But she could finally survive.
She is now happy and cheerful. She can move on. Though she is a little bit skinny, she is just fine. She eats less and moves joyfully. Though sometimes she still gets diarrhea, I am always ready to clean it up if the poops are in the house. I am proud of her for being a survivor.